This week’s video follows on from last week’s, in which I talked about managing your feelings about the holidays and spending concentrated time with family.
I have spoken to clients and friends who are dreading the holiday season because they are expected to spend time with family, and are anticipating problems. I created a three part video series to make suggestions on how to plan for and manage potential problems. This video is on Past Pain.
I love spending time with family and friends, and enjoy all of us staying at my parent’s home. However, there are some challenges with being that concentrated. You have to manage your feelings and thoughts, and tolerate those of others while staying together. Here is one way to reduce your experience of past pains. A simple way is to consider what pain (physical or emotional) you have experienced and determine if it is something you can live with or not. . Prior to your visits, go through a mental checklist and explore what those experiences from previous family visits were, and see which ones you can address so that you are not repeating the same experiences. If you cannot, then make an empowered decision for YOU.
For example, if on the last visit with family you were relegated to sleeping on the couch and your experiences included being woke up many times during the night because of noise, a spring in your back or other reasons, choose alternative sleeping arrangements. Based on this example, you can choose to, rent a hotel room, or stay with another family member or friend, or just travel in for the day or event.
I, personally, have had to experience sleeping on the couch. I was grumpy, annoying, and had a low tolerance for other people’s nonsense. So, I spoke up, and we began rotating who got to sleep in the bedrooms. It was a solution to the problem for at least two of us at a time. Soon after this discussion, my parents expanded their home, and now that is not a problem. However, the reason for reviewing your experience is to empower you to make conscious choices about your upcoming experiences, and take control where ever you can to benefit yourself. If you did not get great sleep you are more likely to be irritable, easily goaded into arguments, etc. Your tolerance for nonsense is lower with fatigue. Once you are aware of your options, you are more likely to leave feeling comfortable and in a positive mood to manage any challenges that may come. Now you can now make changes that will empower and put you in control.
I hope this tip help you as much as they’ve helped me!
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Kim
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