Self Help Is The Best Help
“It is innovators and independent thinkers who have always been at the forefront of all developments in society in every era. Those who take control of their own destiny ultimately shape, not only their own lives, but the lives of all." - JTR
Everyone needs a helping hand from time to time. It's normal. But accepting a hand-up when you've stumbled is one thing, expecting a hand-out before you even fall is quite something else. Yet it is that 'somehing else' attitude which adversely affects a depressingly large number of people. Big government and the nanny state make it all too easy for those out for a 'free ride' to sit back and let someone else be the driver of their lives. Such dependents are happy to abdicate their responsibility to themselves and their own welfare and let the state, and other authoritarian entities, chauffeur their lives. Of course there's a (not so hidden) cost for the ride. It's called loss of agency, autonomy, independence and free will.
The reality is that people in general, expect too much of government. By demanding that government resolve all their issues – from being over-weight, unemployed or unwell through to managing the collective temperature of the entire planet (what)! – they relinquish personal responsibility and cede total power to 'the state'. It seems to matter not that the solutions which poorly qualified, corrupt and breath-takingly incompetent career politicians concoct are likely to engender the worst of all worlds - clumsy and ineffective on the one hand, onerous and expensive for individuals on the other. How much better things would be if folks resigned themselves to the idea that the state should limit itself to maintaining basic public order and providing for the common defence. Who knows? They might then accept responsibility for managing their own situations.
To be a vassal of the state is to be subject to its tyranny, its demands on liberty and its constraints on thoughts, speech and actions. Financial incentives to induce compliance constitute worthless bribes, a deceptive illusion of Emperor's Clothes proportions. Those unquestionally accepting the state's 'generosity', are complicit in accepting it's control - and it's lies. Primarilly the big lie that those in power heve your interests at heart, are helping you and - the most gross mistruth of all - that their subjugation of you is 'for your own good'.
On that last point, consider this fact. It's as old as the hills and as true today as it ever was.
“When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear.”
Yes, a true friend will be open and frank with you and, if you want to be a friend to yourself, you must be honest with yourself. Part of such open-ness demands that you recognise that it is yourself who is best placed to organise your life and all the people, activities, finances and situations in it. Your life plan should be one based in a self-reliant attitude and a practical approach to every aspect of all that you think and do.
Seek out and engage other like-minded souls. When you do, you will find that part of their persona is that they will assist you along the way if and when you inevitably stumble. But they won't be your 'meal ticket'. They'll expect you to pay your own way and take life's risks in the same manner as they do. Their help will be conditional on (and in recognition of) you as a kindred spirit driving your own existence too. They will practice generosity and helping others ... but only helping those others who are prepared to help themselves.
Being self-reliant in life is to enjoy freedom. The freedom to live, breathe and fully embrace the world on your own terms. The freedom to know and understand that self help is the best help.
I am Tom Riach. I live and write in the sunny south of Portugal.
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Comments
I certainly agree that self-help is best. There can be times when a little help is needed, and accepting help can be most difficult, for those with a self-reliant attitude. Thank you, Tom.
Perfectly said George Pierce
You surely nailed it in this post Tom Riach I agree self help will go a long way instead of sitting, waiting to get something done. It's okay to ask for help when you need it, but don't wear it out either. There's a name for that and I call them tire kickers, because they're just being lazy, sitting and waiting on something to happen. Get off your duff and try. A persistent and consistent attitude will prevail and get you to your goal. Thank you for sharing this post here. Great message for many people to read.