Here I Go Wondering Again


There are some who are caught up in "Destruction".  The world will be destroyed.  The wicked will be distroyed.  This system of things will be destroyed.


Don't get me wrong, I too, wish for the end of systematic inequality.  Inequality born of ignorance of natural laws.  Universal laws and the wholesale buying into illusions.  


The shift in thinking that makes 'individuals' or 'nations' or those having material possessions "superior".  I wonder when it will die out.  When will the majority of the people on this planet, decide to be at peace and make sure we all prosper?


I wonder if there ever was a time when most of the people on earth worked for the prosperity of all.


I believe there were such times.  I think what is happening now in this 'age' is what happens to anything that becomes 'over ripe'.  It begins to break down.  It decays.  We turn our noses up at decay.  We think it is filthy.  Yet, what is compost? What is fertilizer?  Aren't they decayed matter?  Isn't there a purpose for decay?  


Decay or dead matter is the end and the beginning of life.  A seed comes from live plants, it dies or becomes dried out, is planted and starts germinating and growing again.  The cycle continues.  


We know about the cycle of plant life, the cycle of living things in nature.  But most times we don't apply that knowledge to what is happening in our own lives.  Or, with the world at large.  


We as a planet are out of balance with nature.  Nature is going to have its way.  We can try to keep it from happening, but it is goind to happen.  This planet, by law, natural and universal will get back into balance.  


What if those we think of as evil and wicked are people out of balance?  What if their thinking is 'out of balance'?  Does that make them 'satanic', pagan, or wickedly evil?


What if you as a person are not 'sinful' but out of balance with the laws of nature and the universe?  


What if some other men decided to call your state 'sinful'?  What if they decided to write a book telling you who were superior because they were 'chosen'?  


What if out of that came a way of thinking and living that said only people who believed as they did (those men) would live through 'the natural cycle of the earth returning to a balanced state' would live through that time?  What if all you life you were taught this?  What if you had a sneaking suspicion that 'you are not sinful' and you are not created to suffer on this side of the grave.  What if you suspect but you are afraid to say it out loud?

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My Thoughts on "As a Man Thinketh So Is He"

It is true that thoughts are powerful.  You can use the power of your thoughts to manifest what you desire.  That is why prevailing community thoughts, statewide thoughts, country wide thoughts and world wide thoughts are so powerful.  Because those individuals thinking along the lines of the prevailing patterns keep on thinking in that way.  And when they try to come to a solution to say 'world hunger' they get confused and feel that the problem is too big for one person to try to solve.  They believe that the governments, the UN, the charitable organizations will solve the problem of hunger.  



There may even be a germ of a thought in the back of their minds that 'all those people need to do is plant some seeds, and dig wells'.  In other worlds those hungry people are the victims of their own thoughts.  Yes, we have to be careful how far we lean in one direction.  To be righteous, to have right thinking, we must have balanced thought.



We must remember there are many laws of nature at work. Our thoughts are part of the Law of Vibration.  The Law of Vibration states that everything vibrates and nothing rests. Vibrations of the same frequency resonate with each other, so like attracts like energy. Everything is energy, including your thoughts. Consistently focusing on a particular thought or idea attracts its vibrational match. How to apply it: Focus on what you desire instead of what you don’t. If you are unable to go to under nourished people and feed them now, and show them how to plant, make sure you think positively about their having nourishment.  Make sure your thoughts are not detrimental toward them.  When you are visualizing what you personally desire, think on them, too.  Think of them eating and planting and being grateful, too.



We can be sure that those people did not 'think' themselves into the predicument they are in.  No more than the people here in these United States 'thought' themselves into double digit unemployment and lost homes.  We can be sure that the victims of the many, yes there were more than one-holocausts did not 'think' themselves into those catostrophic events. Nor, did the millions of aborted babies 'think' themselves aborted.  When you remember that some things are unasked for, unthought of, and you remember you yourself are going though some things you did not ask for, nor did you 'think' yourself into...you have to accept that there is something unbalanced going on in this world system.



When you see that.  You will make it your business to reajust the way you think about all things.  You will make sure your 'thought vote' is on the side of right.  You will remember that you can change the tide of world thought.  Actually, it is beginning to change but we can speed it up by right thinking.  Wait, that's a law, too.  The law of Change.  It happens whether we want it to, or not.  Everything, is about being in balance and if the world's 'prevailing thought pattern' has not been in balance, it has to change as balance is brought back. Change is revolution.  

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Bessie Mathis
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My Thoughts on "As a Man Thinketh So Is He"

It is true that thoughts are powerful.  You can use the power of your thoughts to manifest what you desire.  That is why prevailing community thoughts, statewide thoughts, country wide thoughts and world wide thoughts are so powerful.  Because those individuals thinking along the lines of the prevailing patterns keep on thinking in that way.  And when they try to come to a solution to say 'world hunger' they get confused and feel that the problem is too big for one person to try to solve.  They believe that the governments, the UN, the charitable organizations will solve the problem of hunger.  



There may even be a germ of a thought in the back of their minds that 'all those people need to do is plant some seeds, and dig wells'.  In other worlds those hungry people are the victims of their own thoughts.  Yes, we have to be careful how far we lean in one direction.  To be righteous, to have right thinking, we must have balanced thought.



We must remember there are many laws of nature at work. Our thoughts are part of the Law of Vibration.  The Law of Vibration states that everything vibrates and nothing rests. Vibrations of the same frequency resonate with each other, so like attracts like energy. Everything is energy, including your thoughts. Consistently focusing on a particular thought or idea attracts its vibrational match. How to apply it: Focus on what you desire instead of what you don’t. If you are unable to go to under nourished people and feed them now, and show them how to plant, make sure you think positively about their having nourishment.  Make sure your thoughts are not detrimental toward them.  When you are visualizing what you personally desire, think on them, too.  Think of them eating and planting and being grateful, too.



We can be sure that those people did not 'think' themselves into the predicument they are in.  No more than the people here in these United States 'thought' themselves into double digit unemployment and lost homes.  We can be sure that the victims of the many, yes there were more than one-holocausts did not 'think' themselves into those catostrophic events. Nor, did the millions of aborted babies 'think' themselves aborted.  When you remember that some things are unasked for, unthought of, and you remember you yourself are going though some things you did not ask for, nor did you 'think' yourself into...you have to accept that there is something unbalanced going on in this world system.



When you see that.  You will make it your business to reajust the way you think about all things.  You will make sure your 'thought vote' is on the side of right.  You will remember that you can change the tide of world thought.  Actually, it is beginning to change but we can speed it up by right thinking.  Wait, that's a law, too.  The law of Change.  It happens whether we want it to, or not.  Everything, is about being in balance and if the world's 'prevailing thought pattern' has not been in balance, it has to change as balance is brought back. Change is revolution.  

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Bessie Mathis
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Know Thyself – As Above, So Below



For many thousands of years, much longer than two thousand, people have known of the connection between knowing self and knowing the creative spirit.


They knew from observation of the animals, the planets and stars that the unseen energy transforms into many, many forces and intelligences.  They knew also that they themselves were evidence of that unseen force.


They knew they were the One and the Many all at the same time.  The drop of water, that makes the ocean.  The leaf on a tree that makes the forest.


Without giving the force a name, they were grateful.  They depicted the many aspects of the great spirit in the way they knew, by characteristics of the animals around them.  They observed and saw the wisdom in the actions of animals.  Not that they worshiped them, but they used what we would call analogies.


Those ancient people observed their earthly, heavenly and spiritual environments.  They saw cause and effect and they celebrated in gratefulness for the produce of the land and sea.  They chiseled on their walls and wrote on papyrus the lessons they learned from their observations. They built monuments to the stars that caused the overflowing of rivers that fertilized their land.  As above, so below.


Those people knew that even though each person was different, they were all part of a whole.  That whole included everyone human, animal, the elements – everything in nature and even the celestial bodies.


We are now beginning to realize the things the ancients knew.  Self development gurus write entire books on how to develop into your better self.  Although there is some mention of ‘being generous and grateful’ most of the books are about ‘individuality’.  Competitiveness, winning, being a leader. It is for us to determine to be in balance in the universe.  That each of us as one, is part of many.


The truth is most of what we read in the books today, was chiseled into walls thousands of years ago in a pictorial language.  There is nothing new under the sun.

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Adaptogens! Plants That Decrease Stress at a Cellular Level!

What is an adaptogen?  (in herbal medicine) a natural substance considered to help the body adapt to stress and to exert a normalizing effect upon bodily processes.

One such adaptogen is the "King of Herbs" ganoderma lucidum also known as Reishi and Lingzhi. There are a host of other names for mushrooms containing this vital adaptogen, like: Basidiomycetes Mushroom, Champignon Basidiomycète, Champignon d’Immortalité, Champignon Reishi, Champignons Reishi, Ganoderma, Ganoderma lucidum, Hongo Reishi, Ling Chih, Ling Zhi, Mannentake, Mushroom, Mushroom of Immortality, Mushroom of Spiritual Potency, Red Reishi, Reishi, Reishi Antler Mushroom, Reishi Rouge, Rei-Shi, Spirit Plant.


These adaptogens have potent healing properties which aid in the treatment of

    Herpes-related pain. Some people report that hot water extracts of reishi mushroom decreases pain when conventional treatment doesn’t work.


    Boosting the immune system.

    High blood pressure.

    High cholesterol.

    Viral infections.

    Tumors.

    Prostate cancer.

    Heart disease.

    Asthma and bronchitis.

    Stress.

    Kidney disorders.

    Liver disease.

    HIV disease.

    Altitude sickness.

    Fatigue.

    Chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS).

    Trouble sleeping (insomnia).

    Stomach ulcers.

    Poisoning.

    Shingles.

    Other conditions.

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We generally think of health in physical terms.  Next is mental, then emotional.  Spirital health is usually overlooked, swept under the rug only discussed among close friends and then just as an aside.  We go along life's highways never giving our spiritual health a seconds thought until...we are knocked over the head with a huge event that rocks us to our core.  But, if we really stop to think about it, we have been led to take notice and start to put our spiritual lives in order.


Do not think I am speaking of religion, I am not.  I am speaking of a recognition of how connected we are to each other, to plants and animals - to everything that is in this universe.  We suffer to get an awakening.  And when we do, we make an effort to live in that knowledge and we keep searching to increase the knowledge and awareness.  Whatever it is that connects us, also sustains us and we must be grateful and show it by taking care of ourselves and each other.  Physical illness means you body is lacking something it needs.  It could be vitamin, mineral or water.  It may even be touch.  Withholding touch can cause death in babies.  Lack of a certain nutrient can cause mental illness and emotional illness, too. 


Physical illness, mental illness and emotional ills are wake up calls that we are out of balance.  That illness in the body tells us to do something to get back on the right track.  Our bodies tell us when we are out of balance.  We feel unwell, out of sorts or anxious.  The symptoms of our ills tell us what we need to put back into balance.


When the scientific revolution came into being, we started leaning more and more into science.  If we could not 'prove' something by repeatable experimentation, we discounted it.  However, lately we acknowledge that there are forces greater than us humans.  We want to call these forces 'proof' of the existence of 'aliens'. 


More and more people have been experiencing 'out of body' episodes when they have 'died' and been resuccetated.  They tell of experiences that are so similar in nature, that there must be more to those experiences than hullucinations from drugs.  When those people recover, they have a shift in their consciousness.  They realize there is a purpose for them remaining alive.  They often have clearer insight into themselves and into humanity as a whole.  You might say, they become more spiritually enlightened.


This is my opinion, you may agree or not.  Just as the body gives us wakeup calls with illness, those catastropic events in our lives are to wake us up to the fact that we have neglected the spiritual.  Every one of us have not experienced out of body episodes, but we have gone through times so trying that we thought we were the object of cruel and focused persecution.  We may have had ringing in our ears while going through this trying time, too.  Everything is vibrational.  Whatever is needed for us to get into balance will happen.  If we are not jarred, we will just go right on along just trying to get from one day to the next without thought.  Thought, controlled thought is necessary to decide to get into balance within our own bodies and within our own universe. 


If you think you are in perfect health, and you are so very loving and connected and suddenly you experience some catastrophic event, perhaps you are spiritually out of balance.  Perhaps you should be sharing some information.  Or you should be doing some service.  You matter and what you do with your life matters.  What you contribute is guided by your spirit.  Have you been taking good care of your spirit?  Have you fed it the proper nutrients?  No not dogma and rituals of other men, but that which brings inner peace, love, insight and makes others speak of your glow. 


The exhortation is to know yourself.  For that you must ask yourself questions and search out the answers.  Decide for yourself what it is you believe and how you will live up to that belief. Remember there is no more impartial instructor than nature.  Just look around and see how balance is kept in nature.  Then see what happens when that balance is interferred with.   


Being in balance brings happiness, intelligence superior health and wealth.  That wealth is whatever it is that you value.  What is your wealth?  How will you share it so that it keeps returning to you?  It's all about balance, you give it out, it returns to you. In all there is that matters, there is balance.  Balance is in all.  Imbalance brings ills, personal, community or world wide ills.  Do you not see the importance of being in balance?  We must accord attention to all parts of our health, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.  Balance is key.



Bessie Mathis

Remember when as a child you would argue and fight with your sibling and your mother would make you hug each other.  You didn't want to do it, but before long, in that warm hug you would find laughter?

Each time you were made to hug, you soon forgot the anger.  And after a while your mother didn't need to remind you that even though you might disagree, you could still love each other.  There was no need to hold grudges.  

There is such strength to be found in sibling love.  You have a friend, ally and source of support there.  

My mother must have done that for us because when she died, my oldest sister would make me and my closest in age sister hug.  And when I grew up, I did the same with my children.  And the litiney was the same, that is your 'sister/brother' you are to love her/him no matter what.'  That is your blood.  Don't go to sleep angry with them.  You will be able to count on them when there is nobody else.  

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My Brother Raymon Henry Brown

November 3, 1941 – May 3, 2013

You taught me many things.  I wanted to follow you everywhere. Next to Dad, I thought you were the tallest man.  Yours was the most melodious bass voice I’d ever heard.  No match for it was found. 

You were the toughest, most unafraid person.  A scrapper.  Yet, you had heart, too. 

I’ve said all this to you before.  You know. 

Even though I know from experience my longing to see the physical you will get easier to bear-right now I miss you so much it hurts.

Even though I have inkling that your essence is energy, never ending, never dissipating and never completely destroyed I miss you.

Your life was not merely a dash of time.  It is a spiral, circling and expanding. 

How can I know that you are as present as the dna in me, yet miss you so? 

You are and always will be a part of me.  My brother – my hero.

Rest In Peace Raymon Henry Brown – my brother.

Bessie Mathis

Where to Start, Where to Start!  So Much to Impart to You!

Finally you’ve got an ear.  You want to tell it all.  If only you could open a conduit from your mind to theirs.  Ha!  Think how easy parenting would be if we could do that.  Still when we do get someone to listen to us we have that urgent desire to impart as much of our wisdom as possible in as little time as possible.  Brrrrrrrrrg! Please stop rushing to tell it all.  I’m speaking as much to myself as to you.

Remember, if you are talking, you are not listening.  In your mentoring, in your sales pitch in your relationship building if you are always talking and sharing your own knowledge, you are not learning what your sponsors, referrals, customers or friends need and want.  Please, write down your thoughts.  Speak into a mic and record them.  Make a YouTube video.  You need to get it said, but you cannot, and should not try to pile it all into a telephone call or Skype meeting.

Listen and relate.  Opportunity always knocks.  If you have an opportunity, knock.

When we want to share good things, we all have a tendency to make judgments about who needs to listen.  We forget, to knock and we just barge in with our new wisdom.  If you barged in, you are not welcome.  Everyone progresses to enlightenment at their own pace.  People who don’t or won’t listen to you are not ready to listen.  If you are barging into their space and time, you are not ready to carry a light to them either.  Learn patience and listen.  Speak on topic and if it doesn’t relate to your product or service, don’t force it.  Your opening will come.  Be ready but knock first. 

How do you feel when you are collared by a person claiming to be on the first page of Google?  They have this great opportunity for you.  Don’t you wonder what the value of them being there is if they are still collaring you?  If you have made it there, your next step is to stay there, by satisfying the customers or referrals they already have; not to keep barging in on you.  You are on the first page, you are sought after already. 

As an aside, if you are on the first page of Google, be sure that you are on more than the one that shows up on your computer.  Google is personalized.  You will see more of yourself on your own computer than someone unaffiliated with you.  Please understand that.  Google yourself, you will find yourself.  If you really want to know ask you long lost cousin who you have not contacted by email or on Facebook, to Google you on their office computer.  If they find you, you are indeed highly searchable.  Keep perspective.  You will find yourself, can anyone else find you is the question.

I have so much I want to share with you.  I’ve got some ‘useful links’ of sites to get free stuff.  And I’m asking  ‘What can we do with this?’  “Is there a way to package and tie these things to a system which creates real wealth?”  There is a way and it’s about to knock.

Bessie Mathis

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Caring Has No Borders! 

Today, I’m allowing myself to feel.  Just let them wash over me like a wave.  I know they will recede, like a wave.  What astounds me is they, my feelings of connectedness and care and sympathy were brought on by the knowledge of the passing of the wife of an online friend who lives in Australia.  Real, wet tears flowed.

This person and I have not met in ‘real life’ or offline.  We could get into a whole different discussion of what ‘real life’ is, but for now I mean we had not been in each other’s physical presence. 

These online relationships we foster are real.  And when something happens to someone we care about, we feel it. 

When asked by another friend, who lives in Portugal, how I was doing I shared that I was sad.  Before our conversation ended, I was smiling at pictures of his child.  Another wave.  A refreshing one.  Chidren do that for us.  No matter who’s child. 

Two waves intermingled and I’m floating with the emotions.  In sympathy with one person, in gratitude that another’ s suffering has ended and in hopeful expectation in the joy a child’s smile brings.  My friends care, I care and I know you care too. 

To caring and reaching out.  May we continue to matter to each other.

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.  Leo Buscaglia

Bessie Mathis

All the Perfectly Right People, Where Do They All Come From?

Those perfect, never making a mistake people, who are exceptionally beautiful, phenomenally intelligent and always perfectly right had gotten on my last nerve. 

I didn’t know where they came from, but I thought I knew where they could go. 

One of the first things a person should learn and never forget is that most things that you do can be done in as many ways as there are people on this earth.  You may be able to boil down a system to a few steps, but you cannot list every sub-section of each step to be taken.   Just take cleaning up after dinner.  Simple enough huh?  In every home you go into that will be done differently.  You could even look at the way different people brush their teeth.  How many ways have you seen that done? 

But, what about business systems, you ask?  Those are only as many as there are stores, gurus or farmers market vendors. 

So, when I ran into people who seriously, almost religiously took their way of doing business, or their systematic approach to be the ‘bible’ of how to do business-I’d be amused.  And not only that, I would be resistant. 

My first draft of this PR had a very sarcastic tone to it.  I’m happy I didn’t post it.  It’s funny that lessons come all jumbled up it seems then they all suddenly make sense. 

You see when you go through a valley, you begin to think negatively.  That negativity shows up in what you do and how you do it.  I was in a valley and I was mad.  I mentally put ‘horns’ on people who reached out to me.  I was in the throes of rabid negativity.  I snapped and bit, growled and barked.  I am so glad somebody threw a tranquilizer.  Actually it was more than one person.  But their efforts had a cumulative and calming effect.  Once I was calmed, I was able to listen and really hear the lessons and instruction they were giving me. 

Instead of feeling like ‘everybody is talking at me and I can’t hear a word their saying’ I got the point of it all.  The point is to keep going.  Keep taking steps.  Don’t worry about the ‘how’ just take the steps the way you take them.  Don’t worry that he says ‘that site doesn’t work’ but she says ‘that same site does work’.  The point is for you to find what works for you.  Just keep taking steps. 

I took the hand nearest me with my right hand and they pulled and held on.  I got the point of their lesson and put my left hand in the hand of a person a little further up and they pulled and hung on while I positioned my feet on ever higher levels of understanding.  The collective goodwill from others gathered around my rescue strengthened me and those holding and pulling me.  Being connected is such an awesome thing.  It’s like a ‘barn raising’ or ‘well digging’ community works that may look like it’s for one person or family but is beneficial to the whole community. 

My plans for the day were interrupted all day yesterday.  One of the things on the list was writing that poisonous PR.  When tomorrow comes I’ll get these things done, I thought.  Then a call for help came and I was up most of the night.  The thing that began with him asking help, turned into him helping me.  His was the hand that brought me off the valley floor. 

All the Perfectly Right People, Where Do They All Come From? They came from their valleys.  They overcame.  They kept going, they did not give up.  And they are telling you and me how they overcame, not that we have to do it exactly as they did, but as an example.  They told their stories as an inspiration.  They are not saying “Be me and do just as I did”.  That thought was born of the negativity in my own mind.  It was in my own mind that I began a litany “I’m so confused.  Why are they all telling me different things?”  It is my job to focus on how I do my business.  From the experiences of many I get to choose what I do, what I try, how I put my system of operation into effect.  How I do my business is never going to be exactly like someone else’s.  My exercise of my choice is mine. 

And your choice is yours, too.  You may be in a valley as you read this.  I hope that you can begin to see the ‘helping hands’ that are extended to you.  The words and ideas shared by people you are connected with, are ‘helping hands’.  It is up to you to zero your attention onto that one or two closest to you in spirit.  Concentrate, focus and pull up and out of the funk you are in.  All those others cheering you on can sound like a din.  But, words and ideas are physical and effective in pushing or pulling you toward your goal of getting out of the valley and on to the success that you want.  Focus on getting up. 

All the Perfectly Right People, Where Do They All Come From? They came through their own valleys and developed their own systems of operation to gain the success they have.  They want you to be successful too. And you can be!  Your system, your way of doing business successfully is in you and you use it every day.  You do it so well that you have become ‘unaware’ of what makes you authentic and gives you the ability to influence.  When you focus and pay attention to developing that part of yourself, you will be known as one of the ‘perfectly right people’ on a regular basis.  You will be one of those providing ‘helping hands’ on autopilot.

Bessie Mathis

http://BetMathis.MyBusinessPagePro.com

In these examples you have seen the spirit of love at work, I'm sure.

He’s called a ‘shade tree mechanic’ but you don’t want to have anyone else work on your car.  He was certified once upon a time, but he just reads up on the latest repair techniques now or he consults with shop owners who will give him information generously.  When he’s unable to fix your car, he tell you up front and he recommends someone who can.  You look for him until you find him.  He’s usually under somebody’s car. 

She’s got what they call ‘healing hands’.  She can wash and brush your hair, braid it or style it. Or she can just hug you and all your stress is released.  Your headache is gone.  Where your hair was falling out, it’s growing now.  She’s got ‘healing hands’. 

He is so wise, if you need to make an important decision or there’s a problem you feel you must speak with him.  You rush to him and he takes his time responding to your outpouring of words.   How he understood what you’d just said, you never know.  All you know is when he does speak – everything is going to be alright.  

You’re eating at friend’s house, it’s a potluck.  This dish is so good you can’t get over the flavor, it’s perfect.  Texture – everything about it is exquisite. “Who made this?”  You’ve got to speak with that person and let them know how much you appreciate this fabulous dish.  How did you make this?  The answer – “I put love into it”.

When a person loves what they do, when they have love in their heart as they perform that thing that spirit of love goes into it and makes their product or service soooo uniquely good!

Think back, you enjoyed your mom’s cooking right?  But, what if something got mom upset and that day, the pots rattled angrily.  Mom said you had to eat the food she cooked while angry and upset.  You didn’t want to but she made you.  You promptly threw up.  Projectile vomited everything up. 

Look within; there is something you hate to do.  You don’t want to do it.  When you make yourself do that thing, are you ever satisfied with the results?  Do other people look at it and look away embarrassed? 

There is a large quasi-governmental agency has lost most of its clientele to its competitors because they pummeled out the love of the job from its employees.  They then forced into retirement most of those who at the very least liked to be outside, and hired temporary workers who just don’t get it.  In the beginning the employees didn’t mind going through rain and sleet and snow because they felt good about the job they did and felt they earned good money. 

The competing companies hired workers and paid them more, but when they garnered more of the market they wanted to keep the profits and work the employees harder and longer hours.  So now they too offer inferior service for more money.  You look at them in their brown trucks and short pants and see harassment not job satisfaction. 

What’s my point?  Take the love out of what you are doing, and everybody suffers.  If you do not love your business, love your down line and love your product or service – you will be constantly recruiting.  And you will be constantly advertising for new unaware customers.

Nobody can put love into your product or service like you can.  You are the best at that. 

When I lived in San Jose, CA there was a bakery named ‘Peter’s Bakery’.  They had the best tasting confections, oh so good!  My niece who still lives there told me that the grandchildren now ran the bakery and it just was not the same.  Why?  Because they don’t love doing that business like Peter did.  His spirit of love made that business.  It took care of them all.  People moving to another part of the city made the journey back to patronize his bakery.

My sister travels wherever the woman whose hands ‘grow’ her hair works.  From salon to salon she follows her. 

My nieces and nephews want a cake made by “Aunt Ruby” because she puts love into her desserts.  She can have someone help her, measure out the ingredients and all they have to do is stir, blend or whip and the finished product won’t taste the same as if Ruby had done all the steps herself.  It’s the spirit of her love that is missing.

Do what you love.  If you keep doing what you do not love, it will kill you.  You will become ill and you will not heal until you can exercise your spirit of love.

You can love a product or service when it gives a value – a benefit,  to people that you have experience yourself.  You can love providing a service when you see how your customers respond to the benefit it brings them.  You love it by associating the feeling you get when you see the satisfaction and delight on their faces to that product or service.  It ain’t rocket science. You can love it because when you look at yourself in the mirror, right smack dab in the eyes – you can smile. 

Check it out, everywhere you go, the spirit of love makes your day pleasant or if it is missing, it makes work you don’t want to do.  It’s work to file a complaint when someone who does not love their job fouls up.  It’s work to leave an establishment manned by rude employees for another when you don’t really have that much time.  Then you need to work to regain your spirit of love.

When you join a site, and you stay it’s because of the spirit of the site.  The loving ways of the people who use it and who run it.  If you get the first inkling of being condescended to, you are out of there – fast.  But when you feel welcome and you get warmed by a spirit of love you stay. It’s not all about money on Syndication Express, it’s the spirit of love.  It’s not all about money on IBO and FaceBook. 

Who cares?  We all do, all of us who want to make a difference.  All of us who want to advance steadly toward our dream.  Making sure we exercise our spirit of love ensures that the collective spirit grows.  It keep us inline, too.  We are more careful who we offer our ventures to.  We are more careful how we present our opportunity.  We begin to listen better.  We can down shift smoothly from ‘high pitch’ mode. 

Bessie Mathis

http://ibourl.com/1mzr

Be worthy of self-endorsement. So, first and foremost, have integrity. The definition of integrity is: steadfast adherence to a strict moral or ethical code. Honesty, trustworthiness, reliability, generosity, service minded, helpful; these are some of the values that should be displayed in your behavior.

If you are like me, you totally believe in being a person of integrity.  You feel a moral duty to yourself, your family and friends and to your community.  So, it stands to reason that your dreams would be a reflection of you.

The more I read and think about my dream, the more I know that I’ve got to be specific in my visualizations.  I’ve got to have more than my target in mind.  Having the wealth and fulfillment of the dream is the end, but how I got there is very important to me as well.  As I progressed toward my dream did I have integrity?

One of the ways I can become clear is to:

1. Accept what has already happened. There have been times that things did not go my way.  And there will be times in the future when they won’t either even as I endeavor to be true to myself.  Trials and tribulations will come, but it is how I cope with these negatives that will determine my happiness level.  And being happy, able to keep positive is totally in my hands. 

You know from experience that the more you resist something which has already happened, the more you become unhappy.  When something unwanted or bad comes your way, try to believe that it has already happened.  That it is over.  Then let it marinate in your mind, but only for a little while.  Allow yourself the chance to ponder how this seeming misfortune can help you become a bigger and much better person.

2. Transform the negative into a positive as soon as possible.  Learn the lesson and state it as a positive to yourself.  It is exactly as the law of attraction dictates – what you think about, or radiate, you will most definitely receive. Consequently, when you dwell on all the negatives that have befallen you and react badly, your negative energy will attract more negativity your way!  It is now that is important.  Now, that you know what you need to do, now that you have learned a lesson.  Now.

What is the answer? Make an effort to put an optimistic spin on everything – instead of considering something as an obstacle or a difficulty think of it as an opportunity for change or for growth. When you view all things in a good light, more positivity will arrive in abundance.  Remember, the price you pay for learning a lesson is the ability to change.  You have paid for the ability to readjust your thinking.  When you learn it, you get the benefit of it in better character and a ability to act with integrity.

3. Learn a valuable lesson.  Every single moment in life presents you with the opportunity for change; an opportunity to grow, learn and be whoever you feel like being. It is for this exact reason that you should try not to take any obstacles that come your way too seriously – learn to roll with the punches.  No, I’m not saying excuse yourself of all and every responsibility.  But, when you have done something you cannot be proud of, when you have seen yourself, really looked and recognized you do not like yourself in that light – make the decision to change from that course of action.  Do it right then.  You know that you are not ‘always’ dishonest, or ‘always’ thoughtless.    But, you did act in a way that has consequences, so you have to make a change from that course to one of integrity so that you can look yourself in the eyes in the mirror, and sleep at night.

In every challenge that you ever face there will be a lesson that you can take away with you. It is recognizing and keeping these lessons that empower you and allow you to move forward from your negative experience and become a much better person.

 When you discover that you have not acted with integrity, correct yourself immediately.  If your action has affected someone else, make whatever atonement you can sincerely.  Part of that atonement is learning the lesson and never making that mistake again.    Be the better you, be the person of integrity you want to be.  Just BE.

Bessie Mathis

http://ibourl.com/1kc7

Integrity, endorsement, worthy, atonement, correct, change, lesson

In an effort to keep in balance we must sometimes remove our heads from the clouds and look down at our path.  Bessie Mathis

“Wow, this is great, this will make me some money and I can fund some other opportunities with the income from this venture”.  Who has not thought that? 

We want to ‘imagine’ our dreams coming true.  We want to always be positive and we want to be certain our plans to meet our goals will work out.  And when we find that we have not kept our balance, we have not done our ‘due diligence’ and have believed a lie – what then?

Cleanup is a **.  Admitting a colossal mistake is even more than embarrassing, it is sometimes debilitating.  Making errors because we took a risk is human.  When you stop and think about it we are engaged in a crap shoot.  All we can do is take a calculated risk as much as we can.  Through thought, investigation and logic we can gain a better place of reference to proceed in the direction of our goal.  But, who  can argue that something that we cannot measure, something that is invisible and almost inexplainable is what will assure our success.  We must have ‘faith’, assurance, certainty.  That is what keeps us moving toward our dreams.  Our belief that we can get there keeps us on the course. 

So we believe that ‘scams and ripoffs’ will not happen to us because we are somehow immune to it.  We have our heads in the clouds. We don’t want any part of negativity.  But, is exercising common sense, being negative?

We feel that we are going against the grain when warned and are more adventurous than the ‘rest’.  We do not see that we are really part of a large group of people who are ‘happily’ being fleeced. 

So, now naked of our wooly dollars, we must look down and see our feet on solid ground.  We must not just stand and feel sorry for ourselves we must continue on our journey, having learned one of many lessons.  We can go ahead and feel the anger and allow it to run its course.  Then we must go on.

Because no matter what has happened, we have not lost ourselves.  We have only lost some money.  In my case, it was more ‘virtual money’ than cold hard cash.  Nevertheless, finding that I could not make a withdrawal, and could not buy ‘premuim’ ads with interest made from ‘basic’ ads was a rude awakening.

You may contact me and I will be glad to share with you the name of the company who is making money offering interest which turns out to be only ‘virtual’. 

I have a list of sites you may want to use to investigate companies you are thinking about joining.  A very savvy woman, Terri Pattio advises “Always look for the policy and procedures for affiliates.  Look for the company agreement.”  When you find it she says “start reading from the last paragraph and up, because all their stumbling blocks will be towards the end”.    You can find Terri at https://syndicationexpress.ning.com/

We want to protect ourselves while keeping balance.  We never want to lose our wonder at the dreams we have.  Don’t lose your dreams, don’t allow any setbacks to make you stop pursuing them.  If you can stomp a ‘scammer’ do it, but don’t fall into despair over their mechanisms.  Keep on toward your dreams and as much as it depends on you, be honest, be vigilant and be courageous.

Bessie Mathis

http://ibourl.com/1kc7

“In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you.”  ― Leo Tolstoy

Are you planning on obtaining financial success by keeping your shoulder to the grindstone?  Do you tell yourself, “As soon as I earn $10,000 per month, I will take a breather and enjoy my family and friends?  Do you put off accepting social invitations, because you need to copy and paste ads to all the advertising websites you have found?

Why?  In amongst your plans, for financial success, look around you and be grateful for who and what you already have.  Take some time out and laugh with your children and grandchildren.   

My step-mother used to say, “Tomorrow is not promised to you”.  Meaning, while you may say, “I’ll do this or that, tomorrow”, you are not guaranteed that you will live until tomorrow.  Unforeseen occurrences befall us all. 

Balance your outlook on ‘making it’ or succeeding in earning a certain sum of money.  Even when you earn it, what will you do with it?  You will want to spend in on doing things with or for your loved ones.  And the spending of the money, is not what you will focus on then.  You will be focused on how you feel about being with your loved ones.  Yes, you want to give ‘things’ to your children and grandchildren.  Yes, you want to take trips and live extravagantly.  Some of us want to pay bills without worry.  Just remember, every time you dream, every time you look forward to enjoying your life, your loved ones are there with you.  Look up, aren’t they right here with you now? So, enjoy them now.  None of your loved ones charge you for their time, do they?  They don’t charge you for the love and respect that they give to you, do they?  So, why are you putting a dollar sign on yourself?

Never will they only remember the things you gave them, they will remember the time with you.  The laughter, the everyday events you spend with them.  Don’t put off for tomorrow, the things you can do today with your loved ones.

You, to them are more than a wallet.  You are more than a promoter, and advertiser, an affiliate.  You are a receiver and giver of love. 

Remember your ‘Why’ really remember it.  It does not include a product or service, it includes you and your loved ones.  Remember to live now, too.

Bessie Mathis

 http://ibourl.com/1kc7

Something Has a Hold on Me, and It Ain’t Love – Imposter Syndrome?

Something has a hold on me.  I don’t know what it is.   It seems as soon as my obligation to be in a program was to blog.  I began to have; mental blocks.  Even my sense of wonder suffered.  What I planned to do was make videos.  But In two weeks, I’ve made only two.  Maybe I should make lists of what I’m going to do each day.  I did that and this malaise still lingered. 

Why am I sabotaging myself?  

I deserve to be successful.  I deserve to have a following to my blogs, as much as anyone else.  What is this?  On the heels of some very exciting successes, I'm depleted.  What the heck is this?

Descriptive words are getting in my way.  Who am I?  What do I want?  I just wish it were easier to see myself.  If other more famous people who were celebrities had the feeling of being a fraud, why do I think I should be exempt from it?

Ok, so this is something that happens.  It’s a normal happening.  Just deal with it and talk myself out of it.  It’s something within me that has become a habit that I must break.

All I know is this feeling has got to get out of the way.  How do I use this feeling to help others?

Look for examples.

This phenomenon is so common that it has a name “Imposter Syndrome”.  And it is not gender specific either.

“This phenomenon was first documented in a study conducted by psychology professor Pauline Clance and psychologist Suzanne Imes called "The Impostor Phenomenon among High Achieving Women" (1978). But the syndrome is not limited to women. Many very successful men also claim to suffer from the feelings of being a fraud. The actor Mike Myers is quoted as saying, "I still believe that at any time the No-Talent Police will come and arrest me." Pulitzer Prize-nominee Maya Angelou, television's most successful female writer/actor/producer Tina Fey, and Meryl Streep have all admitted feeling that their lack of talent would soon be discovered.”

 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/terri-cole/fear-fraud_b_1941411.html

There is comfort in knowing that I’m not the only person that goes through feeling this way.  But what do I do about it?

Dr, Valerie Young advises:

Ten ways to stop feeling like a fraud (imposter syndrome)

1         Break the silence.  Fessing up can be a tremendous freeing agent.

2         Separate feelings from fact.  Realize that just because you feel something like ‘feeling stupid’ doesn’t mean that you are.

3         Recognize when you should feel fraudulent. If you are one of the ‘firsts’ it is perfectly normal to feel like an outsider. You are not inept, otherwise you would not have secure your position.

4         even though perfectionism  can indicate a healthy drive to ecel, the trick is to not obsess over every little detal.

5         Develop a new response to failure and mistake making.  Henry Ford once said “Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.”  Do what professional athletes do and glean the learning value from the mistake and move on.

6         Right the rules.  If you feel as if you should always know the answer, or that you should never ask for help—scratch those rules.

7         Develop a new script.  Reassure yourself “Everyone who starts something new feels off-base in the beginning.  I may not know all the answers but I’m smart enough to find them out.”

8         Visualize success.  Really see yourself accomplishing whatever it is you need to do.  Make a presentation, in my case write each and every day.

9         Reward yourself. Break the cycle of continually seeking – and then dismissing – validation outside of yourself by learning to pat yourself on the back.  (I would just qualify that with accept the praise or compliment and be grateful for it.  Not that you are in need of it, but that you can accept it graciously.)

10     Fake it ‘til you make it.  (Sometimes we need to ‘act’ as if we have the confidence we do not feel at the moment.  We do not want to out and out lie.  “I make thousands of dollars at this venture”.  But you do want to be confident about the potential.  Testimonies of trusted friends come in very handy.  Become adept at highlighting the compensation scenario confidently along with the disclaimer. “The results are not typical, but we give a 30 day money back guarantee if you are dissatisfied for any reason.”)

Portions of the aforementioned at:  http://www.unc.edu/opt-ed/events/alliance_day/09/presentations/gradashby.pdf

Keep your eye on the prize of your success “Why”.  Remember you deserve all that you attain.  You deserve each successful leap over every obstacle on your journey to your “Why”.  Nothing puts those fraudulent feelings out of your mind like focusing on your goals and working towards them. Imposter syndrome can be addressed positively.

The answer to that question is what will fuel your efforts in pursuing your goals online.  How are you going to do it?  Ebay, Amazon, affiliate programs, sell your own products or blog for income?  Will you concentrate on one, or two avenues?

Are you ready?  Do you believe you have the character to be successful on the internet?

When you consider these questions, you may begin to feel a bit overwhelmed at first.  But, you will be fine.  All you need to to is take the first step.

!.  Answer the question WHY?  The answer is important to you.  You don't need to share it with anyone unless you want to.  But, you need to keep your WHY foremost in your mind all day every day.  You need to believe in your WHY and that you will get there successfully.  Take in as much inspirational, motivational and positive character building information as you can get -- daily.  Most importantly, be grateful.

2.  Look for an avenue that suits you.  It must allow you to grow at your pace.  It must benefit you.  You must believe in your avenue also.  If it works for you, you won't have any trouble advertising your avenue.  How do you feel about talking to your friends and family?  Do you want to invest in something that will grow without much input from you?  Do you like making videos and talking to whoever will listen?   I would caution you to keep your business and personal profiles on FaceBook separate.

3.  Decide - choose one.  My first was a way to build interest with a free gift of $10.  That was my start in the online business arena.  I just had to make three clicks a day to earn 2% interest.  Once you have chosen an avenue, you will have a link to it.  You will have an affiliate link, or your link to your Ebay store or your Amazon offers or your website.  You will have an address that you need to advertise to get people to your business.  Knowing what you need to do in order to garner the most income from your choice is key to how well you will do at your venture and how fast you will generate the amount of income you desire.

4.  Network and associate with, listen to, and watch the people who have done what you want to do for at least 3 years.  They are your classroom on steroids.  It is not that you want to be just like them, it's that you want to learn.  You will take in what you can use and discard the rest or file it away for later.  When you start watching and listening you must remember that there are millions of programs to  be joined.  Some are free, Lots of them cost.  You must learn how to say 'no' without making an enemy for life.  You cannot join all of them.  You must chose where your energy and advertising dollars are going.  It doesn't cost you anything to endorse someone or their product but you must remember that endorsing anyone or anything online is going to be part of your brand, too.  Be careful in your endorsements and your 'likes'.  Join social sites -- as many as possible.  Take part in forums.  Research 'words that sell', and 'words that influence' to use in your ads which you will post on as many free sites as possible.  Just do a search of 'free advertising sites' that offer nation wide or global reach.

5.  Be a great sponsor.    A sponsor more than likely brought you into a program If you have chosen a venture where you will be sponsoring others, leadership qualities are a must to be developed.  You see that these steps are interrelated, don't you?  I've listened to many CD's, videos and seminars.  No matter what they say, it is very hard to have a 1, do this, 2, do that, 3, do the other step by step road map to success because there are somethings that must be done at the same time as other, or you may need to backup and make readjustments.

I suggest that you investigate 'passive' ways and means of generating online income, think those over and start with one.  While you are building your character and learning to network you can begin to earn.  Unless you can invest a large amount of money, your earnings will be small, but they will be steady.  What is more helpful in building self confidence than successes whether they be huge or small and steady?

Till next time, be well and happy.

Bessie Mathis